Have you ever fallen in love? The head-over-heels kind of love? When nothing else matters kind of love?
If I had to tell you one thing about love, it would be this—that’s not the kind of love you should ever be in.
When someone tells you it’s great to fall in love. Don’t trust them. Nothing could be farther away from truth. Falling in love is awful. Yes, you heard me right!
How can falling ever be a good thing? How would you feel if you fell in a puddle of poopy water? I fell off a running treadmill once and all I felt was miserable, helpless and traumatized. You get it. Don’t you?
Nobody enjoys falling. Not even in love.
It makes me sad to see young people falling in love. And then in the name of love, they forget everything else that was once important to them—their family, their friends, their career, their ambitions, their desires, and sometimes, even themselves. Nothing else seems to matter. And once they’ve placed love on a pedestal above everything else, they’re at its feet, begging it to stay. Maybe that’s what they mean when they say they’ve fallen in love. Fallen in a way that they almost never rise again.
But, I sometimes wonder if they truly understand the essence of love. That love is not about sacrifices and compromises. It is about acceptance. An acceptance of each other. It’s about convergence. Of lives and lifestyles. Love shouldn’t require you to settle for less. It should encourage you to strive for more. Love is wonderful. Love is peaceful. It is comforting and reassuring. It is not about forgetting yourself, but about finding your true self.
So, the next time you begin to fall in love, be just as quick to fall out of it. Because in true love, you don’t fall, you rise.